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Thursday, December 22, 2011

Why So Much Fish?

There are a lot of stressful things about the holiday season – wrapping up presents with your children banging on the door, making the exact number of cookies you’re required to take to the cookie swap and having your house packed to the brim with relatives can be depended on to raise your blood pressure. But, the dreaded “small talk” at holiday parties is usually near the top of everyone’s list. It’s always nice to catch up with acquaintances and coworkers’ spouses at annual gatherings, but what do you talk about once you’ve covered all the basics in 90 seconds?

One of my favorite questions to ask people is about holiday traditions that are special to their families. It’s always fun to hear what other people do to celebrate the holidays (I had no idea that getting new pajamas on Christmas morning is a regular thing in so many households!) and hear the stories behind family traditions.  

My mom is originally from Poland, and she brought a number of holiday traditions with her. Christmas Eve (Wigilia) is considered more important than Christmas Day itself. We eat our big meal on Christmas Eve and open all of our presents after dinner (quite untraditional, I know).

We anxiously await the appearance of the first star (gwiazdka) to signal the start of the Wigilia feast. Before sitting down at the table, everyone breaks the traditional wafer (oplatek) and exchanges good wishes for health, wealth and happiness in the new year. The number of dinner courses is fixed at seven, nine or eleven, and is traditionally a meatless meal, the result of a long-term mandate of the Catholic Church that a strict fast and abstinence be observed the day before Christmas. The traditional Wigilia menu my mom grew up with included mushroom soup, boiled potatoes, pickled herring, fried fish, pierogi, beans and sauerkraut, and assorted pastries, nuts and candies for dessert. Every year my mom tells us about how her father would purchase the Christmas carp before all the stores would close for the holidays, meaning the live fish took up residence in the bathtub for a few days before the big meal.

Our family enjoys eating fish, but not enough to eat seven courses of it or share  a bathroom with a live carp for a few days, so we’ve adapted these traditional Polish customs. We still start the meal with breaking the traditional wafer, but then sit down to feast on all of our favorite Polish dishes, including meat ones. It’s nice to celebrate our family’s heritage while enjoying the dishes we don’t have very often.

After dinner we roll ourselves into the living room to open all of our presents. We spend the rest of the evening watching our favorite Christmas movies, with A Christmas Story and National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation at top of the list. I can usually make it through the first movie but always fall asleep in the middle of the second (this has become a family joke). My husband and I saw National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation recently, and it was the first time in my life that I saw the ending!

Well, this blog post ended up being a lot longer than I expected! Now you know why I pull this topic out of my pocket when party conversations start to falter. So, what are your family holiday traditions?

~ Nicole

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

What Role Do PR Firms Have on Wikipedia?

So. . .  the latest PR brouhaha is that a PR firm created, edited and changed pages on Wikipedia.

I don’t know all the details, but the article at this point has a lot of finger pointing and innuendo. Beyond the article some are even saying that a PR firm should not create or edit Wikipedia pages for a client.
I have to say, “What is wrong with a PR firm creating a page for a client or correcting errors in a page about a client?”
I briefly looked at the editorial policy for Wikipedia, and it states, "Anyone can create or edit a page…" It doesn’t say, “except for PR and marketing firms on behalf of a client.”   So I have to believe that when they say “anyone,” they mean ANYONE.
The fact that anyone can create or edit pages is one of Wikipedia’s greatest strengths and, at the same time, greatest weaknesses.
Unfortunately, there are people out there, not all of them working for PR firms, who deliberately remove anything negative, place overly positive comments and editorialize like crazy, not to mention just plain lie on Wikipedia pages that they have designated themselves as the gatekeeper for all information on the subject.
If one of the main duties of a PR firm is to protect their client’s reputation and provide correct information about them, isn’t it also their responsibility to ensure any information concerning that client is up-to-date and accurate on a website like Wikipedia?  
What do you think?

Friday, December 2, 2011

Getting Ready for the Holidays? Let’s Talk.

It’s December and the holiday season is officially upon us. Can you smell the cookies baking in the oven and the pine scent filling the cool air?

I love the holidays because of the nostalgic feeling that comes over me. I do a little baking, decorate the house and cook up a feast because Filipino culture dictates that I must have a mountain of food enough to feed an army. All jokes aside, this is the only time throughout the year when I have my mother and my brothers under one roof to catch up. It’s when I notice how my children have gotten taller standing next to their uncles or the new wisps of gray hair peeking from my mother’s forehead.

We often laugh and reminisce about the past but recently, I realized that we need to start thinking about the future. It’s my reminder to have a conversation about expectations.

I started the conversation with my mom a couple years ago and it won’t be the last. My mother has been dealing with a heart condition and while she is fully functional and healthy otherwise, I am suddenly faced with having to understand how to deal with unexpected added expenses, role expectations for me and my brothers and what options are available. I don’t get all the answers in one sitting but I understand it’s a process and that I need to start early. It can be overwhelming at times. Fortunately, the state of California has put together a new website, to walk you through the steps of planning for long-term care. In fact, here is a list of question to help guide you with your conversation.

Seizing this moment can be uncomfortable but important. So why don’t you join me and bring out the platter of cookies and talk to your loved ones.